During a recent parent workshop, someone asked, “What’s the best calming strategy for parents?” My answer: “The one you’ll actually use in the middle of a tantrum.”
Let’s be real – we need different tools for different parenting moments. A full breathing practice might work during naptime, but what about when your toddler is melting down in the grocery store? That’s when we need our quick-access tools.
Here’s a peek into my parenting regulation toolkit:
- For morning rush: Hand on heart while waiting for coffee to brew with an intentional pause
- During meltdowns: While staying in visual sight, moving away to focus on my breath with box breathing (inhale for 4, exhale for 4, inhale for 4, exhale for 4)
- When possible: A quick step outside or bathroom break
Your toolkit will look different, and that’s okay because you’re finding strategies that your body responds to. The goal is having options that fit naturally into your family life.
What tools are essential in your parenting regulation toolkit? I’d love to hear what works for you.
