Hello beautiful humans,
I’m SO excited to dive into something that transformed my work with children and families – the power of co-regulation. It’s like having a secret superpower that can turn meltdowns into moments of connection!
So, What Exactly IS This Co-Regulation Magic?
Picture this: Your little one is having BIG feelings (you know the ones – the floor-kicking, tear-flowing, voice-raising moments that can make you want to join right in with your own meltdown!).
Co-regulation is when you show up as their emotional anchor in the storm. It’s lending them your calm when they can’t find their own. It’s staying steady when they’re feeling rocky.
I love how Dr. Daniel Siegel puts it: “What’s shareable is bearable.” When we stay present during those emotional tsunamis, we’re showing our children that their feelings aren’t too big or scary to handle – because we’re handling them together.
Why This Matters More Than You Might Think:
Here’s the beautiful truth that changed everything for me: Our little ones aren’t born knowing how to manage these overwhelming emotions! Their developing nervous systems need YOU – your heartbeat, your breath, your warm presence – to learn the dance of regulation.
Each time you breathe through a tantrum without losing your cool (or at least finding it again quickly!), you’re not just surviving the moment – you’re literally building their emotional brain architecture. How amazing is that?!
Soul-Simple Practice: Notice & Name
Let’s start with something simple that brings safety to their bodies: Connection, Compassion, Curiosity
- Catch those moments when your child’s emotions are starting to grow
- Take a breath and check in with yourself first (your calm is the medicine!)
- Get curious rather than furious
- Gently name what you see: “Looks like frustration feels bigger than you right now”
That’s it! Just noticing and naming with love. It’s small and mighty – you are the anchor that helps their steady their waves. I’d love to hear how this goes for you! Feel free to share your experience in the comments below or in our Kavana Facebook community.
Remember, we’re all in this beautiful mess of parenting together! A regulated adult is better able to support a dysregulated child – but that doesn’t mean we’re perfect! It means we’re practicing, imperfectly together.
Looking for a moment of regulation for yourself?
Try this: Place one hand on your heart, one on your belly, and take three slow breaths. Your nervous system will thank you! ❤️
